How couple counselling can help
Counselling provides time away from home and work to explore difficulties in a safe environment in which to clarify how you think, feel and react.

What kind of problems do people bring to relationship counselling?

If you are getting stuck in a pattern of having the same old arguments which are never really resolved, one or both of you are likely to be feeling frustrated, angry and isolated. Learn how to improve communication – it’s not just about speaking, it’s also about listening and feeling heard.

Lack of sex/intimacy

A dwindling sex life often results from other problems in the relationship causing resentment of each other.  Dealing with these problems can help renew intimacy.  However, for specific sexual difficulties, you may need to see a qualified Psychosexual Therapist.

Life events

Major life changes such as births, new jobs, children leaving home, redundancy, ill health, retirement etc can affect each partner differently.  Relationship counselling can help the couple talk through, understand and cope better with such events.

Changes in the relationship/family

Counselling can help to deal with difficult feelings arising from changes in relationships due to separation, divorce or sadly death, or adjusting to new stepfamilies.  Stepfamilies in particular can bring their own specific problems as each person adjusts to the new family.

Recovering from an affair

Affairs often result in feelings of betrayal and loss of trust from which the relationship may not recover.  However, many relationships do survive an affair. Counselling can help the couple work through what caused the affair and to build a new relationship for the future.

Loss

We often face loss in our lives from actual events such as bereavements, redundancy, health etc. but also perceived or unacknowledged losses e.g. hopes, dreams, missed opportunities. Again, counselling can help you to explore, accept and move on from losses in your life.

Drifting apart

Pressures of daily life often mean couples have little time or energy to focus on their relationship and can end up feeling as if they are drifting apart.  Counselling can help you to explore what’s changed and think about how you can get your relationship back on track.